I don't have a lot, but today I discovered I had more than I thought. My lovely toddler was in a BAAAD mood all day, to say the least. She was difficult all afternoon (apologies to all the customers of the cafe at Plantasjen in Persaunet, I'm sure if you write an accurate description of the situation you will get a full refund for your coffee and cake from the management who will no doubt feel very sorry that you had to experience such a dreadful display) and when we came home she had her first real long-lasting tantrum. She screamed and screamed and screamed for no apparent reason. There could have been one, but I would bet that five minutes into the tantrum, she couldn't remember it herself.
And yet I was not bothered by it. I decided to adopt the "let's ignore this" strategy and hubby was happy to go along, and at no point did I feel frustrated. I have felt frustrated at other times, but not today, and I think that considering what kind of mood she was in, it was a good thing. I don't know if I was able to bottle any of the zen I experienced today, but I will try to channel it again whenever I need it. It was quite a nice to feel I was in control of myself and not frustrated or panicked. I'm not sure it did any good to the tantrum itself, but I'm pretty sure remaining calm (actually calm, not just appearing to be calm) was a good thing.
Well done ;-)
ReplyDeleteThey claim that not paying too much attention to our child's tantrums actually helps in the long run (though one has to eventually help them to come out of them). Anyway, it feels really good not to be affected by their bad mood :-)
It was nice seeing you!